The progresses I have made : 5 Fear of Shopping When I Was a Teenager

When I was child I didn't really understand that people pay money when they buy things.

Then what did I do when I wanted some toy or computer game? I bought by my money (allowance), but if my memory serves I never myself went to the counter to pay money when I was in elementary school. Instead, I asked my parents to buy them by subtracting from my account.

When I entered junior high school, as many teenagers do, I was interested in music artist and apparels. I also wanted to buy some books and stationery.
(I didn't have the habit to take notes until I chose and bought stationary for myself, but it's another story.)

I browsed shops dealing with these things, but didn't had courage to buy one of those goods. More exactly, I didn't know how to buy, where to go when I wanted to buy, or maybe I knew but I wasn't for sure I was going to succeed to buy if I go to the place I have in mind.

One problem was I was afraid that someone was watching me buying something and reproach me for that, even when I had the money to pay. Another problem was, in most cases I needed to talk to a store employee and tell I wanted to buy either on the shelf or in the shopping basket.

When I was teenager browsing shops in the city I lived in was fun, but buying things from them was really stress to me.

It wasn't until several years passed after I entered university that I was able to buy things without much stress.

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