Stressful elementary school days and comfort of railway running by

When I was at elementary school, the classroom and interaction with my classmates and schoolmates was usually pain for me. As I didn't want to repeat pain of troubles and failures, I tried to be a good boy from the beginning of every school day. I always came up with miserable result, finding myself crying from being rebuked by a teacher or bumping into trouble with other boys at school. In most case, I couldn't remember what was wrong. More than 100 times, some classmates said that the class didn't need me.

One of my limited comforts at school was viewing railroad cars at the southeast corner of the ground of the school. The Tohoku line was running beside the school. Although express trains didn't run any more, after Shinkansen, running further east of our city, was in operation, square, massive, and powerful figure of trains encouraged me a lot. I enjoyed to speak details of railroad cars running then and ones of the past, having known by picture books in the second library.


Most of my elementary school days were miserable, almost every day crying for some trivial reasons, even though I was able to get full mark in almost all tests in the school. "Your mark of the tests are not everything, Your behavior is important." Teachers and other adults said to me, so I thought that getting high mark in a test was not important, and that the capability to get high mark didn't add any value to me." In this way I erased from my strong point the ability to learn and the ability to get a high mark in a test. I couldn't find any alternative quality that make me of high value, so my confidence got lower and lower day by day. How I wish there had been a few people to say, "Getting high mark in a test is definitely your strong point, however you need to learn a bit more how to behave, for you have to work - collaborate with some one else who has different strength from yours."

Episodes of my stressful days of elementary school, and how to getting my humble comfort from railway and automobiles may give hint for kids who are going to follow similar paths.

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